You sent a great introduction request. You waited. And... nothing. Now what? Most people either give up or send an awkward "just checking in" message that gets ignored.
The truth is, one message isn't enough. But there's a right way and a wrong way to follow up. Here's the proven follow-up sequence that actually gets responses.
The 3-Message Follow-Up Framework
Follow-Up #1: The Gentle Bump (Day 7-10)
After a week, send a brief, low-pressure follow-up. The goal is to bump your message to the top of their inbox, not to pressure them.
Template: "Hi [Name], just wanted to bump this in case it got buried. No worries if you're not able to help. I completely understand!"
Follow-Up #2: Add New Value (Day 14-17)
If they still haven't responded, add something new. Share an article, congratulate them on something, or provide an update that's relevant to them.
Template: "Hi [Name], I saw [company] just raised Series B. Congrats! Thought you might find this article on [relevant topic] interesting. Also wanted to bump my previous message in case you had a chance to look."
Follow-Up #3: The Soft Close (Day 21-24)
This is your last follow-up. Make it clear you're moving on, but leave the door open. This often gets a response because it removes pressure.
Template: "Hi [Name], I know you're busy, so I'll stop following up after this. If you're able to help with an introduction, that would be amazing. If not, no worries at all. I completely understand!"
💡 Key Principle: Each follow-up should add value or remove pressure, never both. Never be pushy.
What NOT to Do
- Don't follow up too soon (wait at least 7 days)
- Don't send the same message repeatedly
- Don't guilt-trip them ("I really need this...")
- Don't follow up more than 3 times
- Don't be passive-aggressive
Timing Matters
Send follow-ups on Tuesday-Thursday mornings (9-11 AM in their timezone). Avoid Mondays (too busy) and Fridays (checking out for the weekend).
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