Referral Requests

What to Send With a Referral Request

Most referral asks stall because the person wants to help but you made it work. Hand them a finished packet and saying yes becomes a two-minute favor.

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Example - what you’ll see
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Someone who works at your target company
🎓 Same university as you  ·  💼 Shared past employer
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A recruiter at your target company
🎓 Same university as you
🎓 Alumni

✍️ Ready-to-send intro“Hi - we both studied at [your school]. I’d love to hear about your path to a company you are targeting before I apply…”

… plus everyone else in your network who can put in a good word.

See who can refer you in - pick your target company:

Short answer: Send four things: a two to three sentence blurb they can paste into their referral form, your resume as a PDF, the exact job link and requisition ID, and one line on why you fit that team. The goal is that they submit you without writing a single word themselves. If they have to summarize you, most people quietly never get to it.

Why a good packet beats a good relationship

A referral is not a character reference, it is a form your contact fills out at your company. Recruiters read the referrer's blurb, so whatever your contact writes becomes your first impression. If you leave that blank, they either stall or write something vague like 'seems sharp, worth a look.'

The fix is to write the blurb for them. When your words are already in their inbox, ready to paste, the favor drops from 'draft a recommendation' to 'hit submit.' That difference is the whole game.

The four things to attach

Keep it to one message with everything below. No back-and-forth, no 'let me know what you need.'

  • A paste-ready blurb. Two or three sentences in their voice: how you know them (or what you share), what you do, and one specific result. They should be able to copy it straight into the referral field.
  • Your resume as a PDF. Named clearly, like Jordan-Lee-Resume.pdf, not resume-final-v3. Tailor the top third to the role so the referrer can see the fit at a glance.
  • The exact job link and req ID. Big companies post the same title in ten locations. The requisition number tells the system which one to attach you to, and saves your contact a search.
  • One line on why this team. Not 'I need a job,' but 'your team's work on X maps to the Y I built at Z.' It gives the referrer something honest to stand behind.

How to find the right person to send it to

A perfect packet sent to a stranger is still a cold ask. Referrals convert when they go to someone who already has a reason to vouch for you, a former classmate, a past coworker, someone from a company you both passed through.

This is the part FindWarmIntros handles: you name a target company and it surfaces the real people there who share a school or an employer with you, ranked by how strong that connection is, then drafts the intro so you are not staring at a blank message. You still send the packet above, you just send it to someone who is inclined to say yes.

Frequently Asked Questions

Should I write the referral blurb myself or let them?
Write it yourself. Busy people either delay or write something generic, and the recruiter reads whatever ends up in that field. Handing them a paste-ready version protects your first impression and removes their biggest reason to procrastinate.
Is it pushy to attach my resume before they agree?
No. Attaching it removes a step, it does not commit them to anything. The alternative is a second message asking for it, which adds friction and gives them another moment to lose momentum. Make the whole ask answerable in one reply.
What if I do not have a specific job to point to yet?
Then ask for a quick 15 minute chat instead of a referral. Requesting a referral with no role attached forces your contact to go hunting, which most will not do. Get the conversation first, find the req together, then send the packet.
How long should the blurb be?
Two to three sentences. Long enough to name what you do and one concrete result, short enough that they read it in five seconds and paste it without editing. If it needs a paragraph, it is a resume, not a blurb.

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